This subject has been on my mind for months. I occasionally talk about it and express my feelings here and there; but this video really struck home with me. It’s no big secret, a big part of my life and my business is social media. I love social media for all the good it has to offer: sharing, connecting and inspiring. With that said, since a big part of my life and business is social media, it’s hard to put down the phone. I’ve changed my habits a lot within the past year and I feel SO good and yes, healthy!
When I’m not actually sharing or connecting, I’m not touching my phone. I don’t have mindless text conversations, I don’t scroll social media for hours (which I used to do) and I don’t pick up my phone unless I absolutely have to when I’m around people. When I’m with people, I want to actually be present. Social media has burried us into this world that may or may not be real - in fact, you don’t know what’s real or not. Did you know there is something called “Facebook Anxiety”? Im sure this was before Instagram and can easily be called Instagram Anxiety now. People are spending far too much time being consumed by the lives they’re seeing on social media, getting upset, hopeless and angry because they don’t think they have the life they “aspire” to have.
We’ve become obsessed and addicted to our devices and I truly believe is is unhealthy; I see it in my two year old daughter. She’s absolutely obsessed with the iPad/iPhone and she knows exactly how to use it and find the programs she needs - it’s scary! I do my best to control how much I let her use it and how often she’s on it. I’ve downloaded many educational games for her on the iPad and so when she is on it, at least she’s not watching things that are mindless. She LOVES YouTube and starts to watch all her favorite tv shows but then it moves on from there to random things and I can see her scrolling and scrolling; so I let her have it a certain amount of time then I take it away from her. Instead, I take her outside, or play toys with her in her room to distract her and show her I’m here to play and pay attention to her. It works every time, she’s happy!
So what do we do? Get rid of social media? Disconnect from the world? No. As mentioned in the video, it is all about balance! Balance and in my opinion, the content you chose to watch. Stop scrolling through the popular page for endless hours, follow people that inspire you or you connect with and let it uplift you, not bring you down! I can’t tell you how passionate I’m about this subject. I see too many people around me becoming consumed and start LIVING for social media and it’s sad and scary to see. Check out this short video below and let me know your thoughts. Much love, Lilit.
I’ve really been wanting to take her to an extra curricular activity for a while now but she’s still too young for most of it. It was between gymnastics and ballet and well, ballet is just too stinkin’ cute! Kat is very active, strong and flexible so I figured this is the perfect start for her. I googled a bunch of toddler ballet classes locally and found one that had great reviews. I can’t tell you the “review” of my place yet because she’s really just gone to one class so far. I highly suggest finding the closest place to you and read up the reviews. Most these places will have a free trial, so take advantage of those and see which place your kiddo loves most!
She walked in happy and excited to see other kids her age and said hi to them with the biggest smile! As soon as we sat down for circle time, she started climbing on me and didn’t want to be a part of it; she was crying and borderline throwing a tantrum. I get it, it’s a new environment and something new can be scary. We sat in the corner and I just let her watch; her crying toned down and her interest level went up. I was encouraging her by saying things like, “Look at how much fun they’re having!” but I didn’t push her. I think it’s important for them to get involved when they feel comfortable and ready. Soon enough, she felt left out and ran to join the group - just like that!
She had a blast on the first day of her ballet class and she didn’t want to leave when it was over! I signed her up right away. As toddlers, you need to be there as a parent in case you need to jump in but overall, you kind of let them do their thing. At this stage, they’re learning the simplest steps of ballet, but it’s more about exercise, discipline, following rules & moves, socializing and most importantly, having fun! I’m really excited for this new adventure for Kat - beats staying home and watching TV! What activities are your kiddos in?
I miss you guys. It’s been a minute since I last blogged - I have all these ideas everyday and all these things I want to post and share but yet I haven’t been able to find a minute in my day. I’ve taken photos and jotted down all the yummy recipes I’ve been meaning to share & finding super cute fashion pieces for super cheap prices...and it has yet to make it here!
It’s been a pretty busy month full of events! From launch events for Becca, Smashbox, Hourglass, Duart & Laura Mercier, to my launches with the Minimalist Mauves & Mauve Jewels, to Meet & Greets at Naimies, being part of the Simply event, teaching a Makeup course for a week, family events and having tourists from Armenia...you get the point. It’s been fun, exciting & exhausting all into one.
Kat has been really attached to me lately and although I love it and my heart melts that she always wants to be with me; this also means she won’t sleep unless I’m sleeping with her. Especially since she caught a cold and has a fever the last 2 days; she’s getting away with it. Currently we’re in my bed and she’s laying next to me trying to fall asleep. Once she’s asleep, we take her to her bed. But this also means possibly laying here next to her for 2 hours starring at a dark ceiling. When I open my phone, she starts screaming, “Peppa Pig!!” - so I quickly put my phone away. So basically, being active on social media has been quite the challenge lately!
If you don’t already know Kat, let me just give you a little background on her: she is one of the most active 2 year olds you’ve seen! And when I say active, I mean fearless, relentless, quick & sharp. Although I am very happy she took after daddy, I am also very scared lol. Daddy, is very well of his actions, a 2 year old? Not so much!
Before I had a child, I criticized parents who would put “leashes” on their kids. I would think, “she’s not a dog!” But let me tell you, dogs are more disciplined than a 2 year old. I took Kat to Disneyland for the first time last year and I purchased one to take with me and boy am I glad I did! This child wants to run like the wind every chance she gets. Have you seen her climb up the slides at kids indoor playgrounds? Lighting bolt.
Long story short, she loves the water! She loves baths, pools and the ocean. We took her to the beach in October and she would just run to the water as if she knew what she was doing. Although her excitement would make me happy, it equally scared me.
As Summer is approaching, I knew it was crucial for me to take her to swimming lessons. After much research and referrals, I decided to take her to “Swim to Selena” in Sherman Oaks, Ca. The location is at her home but don’t be confused: although very homey, she is a professional and an expert swimming instructor.
The courses are 2 weeks, 9 classes, 30 minutes a day. I was lucky she accepted Kat because she missed the first day, but you cannot miss a single class. The trick is consistency and I noticed that from coming back to class from the weekend. The goal of the class is to teach non-swimmers not only how to swim, but how to survive. God forbid they ever get pushed in the pool, fall or even jump in, how to quickly turn around and get back to the wall or a safe zone. The goal of this class is to not be afraid of the water, learn how to swim underwater holding their breath and know how to get themselves out of any dangerous situations; not to be a professional swimmer.
Kat cried/screamed the first 2 days...I swear I was crying with her lol. (Look at picture above with her trying to hide , sticking to the wall!). However, Selena said it was perfectly normal and I trusted her as she has several kids every 30 minutes like 8 hours a day! By Day 3, just as expected, she cried less. Mind you, although she was crying the first few days, she was still swimming and pushing! By the second week, the tears were gone and so was the fear. It was back to Kat loving the water and not wanting to get out! In fact, quite a few times, she would throw herself in the water off the bench when it wasn’t her turn! Remember that quick, fearless girl? Yup, she’s back! At the end, even the instructor assured me she would be that kid at a pool party jumping in the water! Although it was a hard process for me as a mom, I trusted in the structure of the class and knew I HAD to do this for Kat.
If you’re thinking about taking your child to swimming lessons, don’t think twice!!! We NEED to be proactive in the safety of our children and we NEED to take action. Don’t say, “tomorrow”, what’s more important today? If Selena is not close to your home/location, find one closer to you and book it ASAP. I hope this post was helpful! Please feel free to comment and let me know if you have any questions or concerns!
This was part of my blog posts earlier this year. Decluttering your life one closet, car, pantry, and makeup drawer at a time. I’ve been on this “cleanse” for a month now and it feels so good! I still have a few more spaces to go through, but the progress has been calming and uplifting, all at the same time.
I started with my closet. I take out a couple bags every few months, keep only what I’m currently wearing and give away everything else I haven’t worn or won’t anymore. I don’t throw anything in the trash by the way; I give it away to family, friends and those in need in Armenia. I later moved on to my shoe closet and emptied that out, then my kitchen pantry (which is way too small and inconvenient for anyone), then to Kats drawers and all the clothes she can’t fit in anymore, her toys, husbands closet, bathroom cabinets, and any other drawer/closet I found in my house
I later moved onto my Elcie office and emptied out 3 boxes of Makeup I’ve been sent; which I took to the girls at my studio to be able to use on their clients. While I was organizing them at the studio, I emptied out THOSE Makeup drawers and refreshed them, cleaned out the receptionist drawers, color room cabinets and the entire kitchen! Oh and not to forget, cleansing out my phone: I uploaded and backed up 15k photos and deleted them off my phone. When I tell you I’ve been on a cleanse...I’ve been on a cleanse!
In other words...it’s been a tiring and busy few weeks lol. Not only cleansing is good because you declutter and have a sense of calmness and organization around but I’ve found it to be very therapeutic. When I’m decluttering physical things out of my life, I simultaneously declutter my mind; I think of all the junk in my head and I toss it away with the physical junk I don’t need anymore. When I’m organizing physical things, I’m simultaneously organizing my thoughts and getting everything in order; I file away what I don’t currently need and bring up to surface the things that I really want and need and those that matter - the keepers!
We are constantly filling our minds with garbage throughout the day. Whether it’s something we saw on tv, social media, heard through a friend, or just things we create in our minds...although only natural, it clouds it from all the things we SHOULD be thinking about and filling our minds with. Most of you already know I enjoy a good read every so often. I read at least a few chapters of an inspiring, motivational or uplifting book each night before I sleep. Reading being the last thing I do before I go to bed...I go to sleep with only positive thoughts in my mind and wake up with a fresh mood and attitude. I used to scroll through my phone every night before I slept and I believe that’s one of the worst things you can do. In fact, I wake up now and have a cup of coffee and enjoy my morning with Kat before I even look at my phone. It’s seriously been such a life changing start and finish to my every day and highly, HIGHLY recommend it.
What do you do to declutter your life & thoughts? Any rituals you have? Would love to hear your thoughts.
I used to go on Snapchat and talk to my followers 30 minutes to an hour at a time. I used to write up blog posts about the smoothies I made or my weekend with my family. I used to write up reviews on new products. I used to be more “connected”. And when I say “used to”, it seems like years ago and although it’s only been a few months, it’s been too long and I miss you guys. I stay as connected as possible with Instagram, but even then, I let it slip sometimes.
But the real questions is, how in the world are we in June?! Every month I think, NEXT month it’ll be better, NEXT month I’m free and I’m still trying to catch up with that “NEXT” month. Between meetings in New York, Italy & Chicago in 4 months, between Elcie, Lilit Makeup Studio, Youtube & Family, I haven’t had the chance to connect. Sometimes I think that it’s ok & that we should allow ourselves to disconnect and LIVE every so often; but when I do, I feel guilty and feel as though I’ve neglected my followers and that’s not fair either! So for those who always ask, “How do you balance it all?” - I’m still trying to figure it out
Staying active is really important for any Influencer. We need to always stay relevant, create good content and be creative. It doesn’t seem so complicated right? Believe me, it’s work! A simple makeup look takes time to do, takes time to catch good lighting, take enough photos, find one you like, editing, etc. For a mom with a business to run, this is 3x more difficult. I absolutely LOVE makeup and when I’m not creative I miss it and get mad at myself for it. So it’s basically this vicious cycle of me trying to catch up in one category or another.
However, I don’t want this to come off as a complaint! I HATE complaining and have completely shifted my mind to be the most optimist person I can be. But, I did want to catch up with you guys and give you a little insight on where I’ve been and tell you that I miss you.
Elcie has been kicking my butt. Having your own brand is a blessing and although I love every second of it, it’s more work than the 3 jobs I used to have at the same time! The stress level and the daily struggles are beyond; but it truly drives me and makes me want to work harder to become the best at what I do.
I have a LOT to update you guys on and in due time, I hope to be able to share it. I love you guys and hope that you’re all doing so well! I’m making an active decision to come back to this board soon, till then, share with me! Comment and share how your life’s been? I want to hear from you.
My husband and I decided to get away for the weekend on a last minute local trip. We really wanted to spend time with Kat and do things that she would enjoy & not just things WE enjoy! My friend Viola said it best, "Who do we think we are? Thinking we can do fancy lunches" We assume we can live the life we had before and that it will be "instagram" beautiful with the kids sitting in their high chairs, proper and appropriate. Absolutely not! That is not ideal with a 2 year old, well, most 2 year olds. We did that easily till she was about ONE, then she started to walk and it was over from there lol. What we SHOULD be doing is taking them places they can run buck-wild and truly have fun! So my husband and I try to think of random things to do so that she can have a good time - we enjoy her smiles more than anything.
The flower field falls right behind an awesome shopping outlet and 5 minutes from the Straweberry field! In other words, take the day off and make a visit. Once we finally got some photos in and let Kat run around aimlessly, we drove to the Strawberry field. This was truly the most amazing experience with our babygirl! Reminded us both of times we used to do this with our grandparents in their backyards when we were kids. And Kat? She loved it! As most of you know, Kat is obsessed with Strawberies. Can you imagine her? She didn’t know which one to pick! She was picking and eating every single one, even the white and green ones lol. Side note: do NOT take your nice shoes, you’re going to get dirt all over them. Let’s not even talk about the mess Kat was in...omg! Let’s just say, we’re taking our car for a detail wash tomorrow. On a brighter note, the strawberries were delicious and the experience, memorable.
...at least one week at a time. One of my New Years resolutions was to keep a “To-Do List”. Although I’ve been doing exceptionally well with that, I was lacking a to-do list for life, outside of work. I feel as though I keep telling myself there’s things I need to do with my personal life; but apparently, it’s things I never have time for, or so I think.
In reality, some of these things are more important than work and some are just things that make you feel like you have your LIFE together, if done. Too often we say “tomorrow” and too often it never gets done. You are not alone my friend; we are all on the same boat! So I started making a to-list list every single week of things I need to get done that have nothing to do with work! I can’t tell you how good I feel every time I delete a task from my notes. I feel accomplished!
Below is this weeks to-do list. Does it look something like yours?
Some of these sounds mediocre, I know. But how many of us miss our annual gyno check ups? It’s so much more important than any job! I was out with my friends Teni and Angie yesterday and this conversation came up. One of Teni’s friends hadn’t gone for a checkup in such a long time that by the time she went, she was in too deep with an issue that had arised. Honestly, a year is not that long - we blink and it’s a New Year. So make a to-do list and get all your health checkups on a regular basis!
Dental appointment - we all hate it, but all it takes is one appointment. One of my teeth broke when I was pregnant with Kat. The broken tooth never bothered me, it didn’t hurt so I just forgot about it. I finally went to the dentist last week to find out I need a root canal - dammit! My dentist asked “Have I really not seen you for 3 years?!” I couldn’t believe that’s the last I visited him! I was so ashamed. I go for a cleaning every 4 months prescheduled with a hygienist, so to me, I’ve been going to the densit. So no, I haven’t really gone for my check ups. I could have prevented the root canal! Now it’s a bigger headache...better yet, toothache, in this case.
Kats toys have piled up beyond control! I cannot step into her room without banging my foot against something or stepping on something! I keep telling myself I need to clean it out and it never happens. Ugh, it takes time to go through what she plays with and what she doesn’t! But, it needs to be done. Simple yet a drag.
Printing out Elcie Articles for wall art! We moved into the Elcie office over a year ago and I have yet to design it. We moved in, got busy and that was that. I didn’t have time to decorate or do anything cute to my office. I literally have a desk and a chair and that is it. All I have to do is go to cvs.com upload the articles and click print and have it be delivered. Why has it taken me so long?!
Washing Makeup brushes, ugh! Am I the only one who finds this annoying? I have better things to do than sit there and wash my makeup brushes. Ladies, washing your makeup brushes is a must! You can clean them with brush cleaner every so often but at least once a month - wash them! It’s sanitary and healthier for your skin.
I did that to-do list this morning and in a matter of Kat napping for 3 hours, I got it all done, except cleaning out her toys! I feel so relaxed and relieved! Take time to make notes of things that you need to take care of every week that include physical and mental health! You come first. Who else makes to-do lists. Are they daily? Weekly? Monthly? I’d love to hear!
If you follow me on Snapchat, then you know that I stopped buying tangible gifts for my husband. For starters, he's a very difficult man to buy a gift for. Second, he's returned everything I've ever bought him in the last 4 years lol. So I have started to buy him "experiences", such as lunch on a daytime cruise, weekend getaway to Santa Barbara, wood working classes (his passion) and so on. On Feb.9, he turned 38 and it was time for a new "experience"; so I purchased a weekend getaway to Temecula. Not only did I book a last minute getaway, but most importantly, a hot air balloon ride! I was SO excited for this because I thought it would be beautiful, special and something he has never done before.
We made a weekend out of it because we had to be at the hot air balloon location 5:30 in the morning. There was no way we were driving out at 3am (about 2 hours away from where I live) but, we also love wine tasting, so we spent all of Saturday vineyard hopping and enjoying our time together. Comes Sunday morning, we wake up 4am, get ready and head out to the location. It was dark, foggy and not a soul in sight for a good 5 minutes (super freaky) until we got to the meet-up location. When everyone joining showed up, we got in a van and went to the actual flight location. Basically, the pilots had to test out the wind for speed and direction and just take all safety precautions before we headed up. At this point, the fog was still pretty heavy, so the pilots decided to test out another location about 20 minutes away. Once we got to the second location, the fog was even heavier and still not safe enough. Then we drove another 30 minutes away as they tested the wind and fog some more. After 2.5 hours of testing and driving around, it was a NO-GO! I couldn't believe it. They had a "Happy Birthday" banner they were going to put up on the basket, with champagne and cake as we all sang for him! My husbands birthday surprise was ruined. I was so upset and annoyed...but what are you gonna do? To get a better idea of what I was describing, see below pictures. Top picture is what it was supposed to look like...and bottom is what it actually looked like!
How sad does that look right? On a brighter note, it ended up being a beautiful day and they even served a little breakfast with mimosas. Champagne always makes things better right? lol. Anyways, not sure if we will go back because this was supposed to be for his birthday, but we'll see! If you do end up going, go more towards Spring or early Fall, it will be a beautiful morning. We stayed at Carter Estates, which had little bungalows you can rent out. We had a little living room, fireplace and a beautiful view of the vineyard. Of course, there was no grapes yet as it wasn't the season, but they did say they start growing it sometime in March.
Lucky for me, I had bought him another Birthday gift months ago! I had been dying to see Lara Fabian LIVE in concert for over a decade (ok fine I had a little selfishness with this gift). I'm not sure when she was here last, but I totally missed it. I found out she will be in LA and thought it would be a great gift since it was 2 days away from his Birthday and he's a fan of her too. So, we drove back from Temecula, spent some time with our Kat (whom we missed SO much), put her to sleep and headed out to the concert. I have to say, her concert wasn't what we expected. We are a huge fan of her french songs and she sang more of her english songs. She didn't sing my favorite song in the world, Caruso, which is BEST sung by her! And her outfit choices... were plain old confusing and unflattering. I expected her to come out barefoot, in her flowey dress with loose curly effortless hair. However, when she sang Je Suis Malade, Je T'aime and Adagio , it made it ALL worth it! She got a standing ovation for every one of her songs - the reason people came to see her. If you haven't heard of her...get ready to fall in love.
And that was the end of my husbands Bday weekend; at the end, it all worked out. I am so glad I had a backup plan! lol. However, father's day is creeping up slowly and I would love to hear some ideas from you guys! Leave a comment and share what experiences you recommend! Till next time, Xoxo.
When I was approached about an interview for WWD Magazine, I couldnt believe it. Not because I don’t feel I deserve it or I feel I have doubts about my brand but because I never dreamt it. It was too big, too far... a feature in one of the leading magazines for fashion and beauty? Ugh! Dream, I tell you! When you’ve worked so hard for so long and then someone like WWD recognizes it - it melts your heart. However, I do owe it to all my followers, fans & customers. Without you guys, I would not be where I am and I would never have this feature. So although this feature was a dream come true, YOU helped me built this dream and I am forever thankful for you.
Read the full article here: wwd.com/beauty-industry-news/beauty-features/influence-peddler-makeup-by-lilit-lilit-caradanian-from-mua-to-elcie-cosmetics-beauty-brand-11113126/